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we no longer use * FOO
we have: FOO (in RED) if one message
[n] FOO (in RED) if n messages (if it's GC the n is all messages and not those only for us)
if in GC and at least one of the n messages is for us we go RED BOLD so
[n] FOO (in BOLD RED) {we don't care about the number of messages that are only for us. this makes sense because the information we want is that we have something new, when we go to read it we can easily see what's for us and waht is not. this also keeps the GUI pretty clean and clean no matter if it's chat or group chat}
the color GREEN should be used for 'user is typing'. when user stops typing and/or pauses it we fallback to previous color we had